According to biographies, Jackie stayed away from the White House quite often because she knew full well what her husband was up to with the young women there. She got her mother- and sisters-in-law and her own mother to fill in as hostess many times. Aside from her husband’s philandering, she likely preferred the comfort of her own home or other estates she had access to. She did her project (re-decorating the White House) and added her glamour to state dinners, and is remembered as a great First Lady.
Melania can do whatever suits her and her family as far as I am concerned.
Bess Truman DESPISED Washington——and spent much of her time in Missouri.
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