I never get to vent but this has prompted me to. I had one child 20-something years ago in my youth. Her father and I did what we felt was right- got married, gave up freedom and friends, and found steady work. I loved this little girl and cared about her happiness and well-being over anything else, as it should be. When she got into her early teens she became verbally abusive towards me. I mean, really personal and nasty. She has gotten physical a couple times since she’s become an adult and just as everything seems to be getting better she’ll get in one of her belittling moods creating discord and then gets mean with name calling. She has sadistic tendencies. Ironically my grandchild happens to have a beautiful spirit. Has been the light of my life these past years. However, sorry to say but my daughter has brought much sorrow to my life :(
This is not directed at you personally but some mothers expect too much from their daughters.
When I go into grocery stores, I see so many elderly mothers abusing their middle-aged daughters who are there because they drove them to the shop, helped them out of the car and are now putting the items in the cart (while mom yells at them) and taking it all to the checkout. The daughters are generally on their lunch break or after a long day at work. It’s a rare occasion when I see guys doing the same for their moms.
It just works both ways. And, again, this is not at all directed at you. Just a general observation.