Be it about children or relationships or careers or whatever, life is the sum total of every thought, word, experience, and decision acted out in a world with an unknown tomorrow.
Some people were better guessers than I, or were more optimistic, or simply had an actual sense of direction in looking down the road, or merely understood that there was a road.
At least I understand that God has a rectification process, so things can turn about in the weirdest ways. Ironically, there's always tomorrow..
When I was 20, I planned on being IRS Commissioner, with an apartment in the Watergate and cats. How differently the next 30 years turned out! I have the cats ...
I think some posters are just worn out and blowing off steam. Our psychobiology is at a low point this time of year.