It depends. If you are a Christian, then it is God’s blessing upon the union. It also clears the moral problem created by living together “in sin”. If you are not a Christian, then it is an opportunity to publicly proclaim your love for one another and your intention to stay together forever. In either case, it creates a new legal position for each of them. If one is in the hospital, the other has specific rights of visit, consultation, and information not available outside of this new legal position.
As a Christian, I have trouble understanding living together without this commitment. It cheapens the entire relationship, and tarnishes not only their purpose together but their Children born out of wedlock. Marriage is hard enough as it is - why burden it further with no commitment.
Women want marriage so when they leave they can take everything, that the man worked so hard for, with them
“Marriage is hard enough as it is - why burden it further with no commitment.”
Well said, and absolutely true. The sacrifices of marriage, and the wonderful side of sharing life with someone who is committed to you, and you to them, aren’t considered enough, IMHO.
Well put.
Marriage is tough and takes time and work. I’m afraid that many younger people aren’t considering the cost and the work anymore.
I’m reminded of an email I received from a young lady in response to a letter I sent her new husband.
To set the scene. He had joined the Marines but hadn’t left for boot camp yet. They had nothing at all for assets and two part time jobs. She told him she was pregnant and they eloped.
I’ve known the boy (not a man) for over a decade and felt the need to give him some advice so I wrote a good old fashioned letter.
In the letter, I first upbraided him for stealing his wife’s day. Most girls want a fancy wedding and he took her to a judge. But now, he’s done. It’s time to set up his household. I told him that he must move out of her parents house and get into a cheap, crappy apartment on a monthly lease. (She can move back in when he leaves for training)
I told him to get back to church and counsel with the pastor who is used to dealing with people’s screw ups.
I then offered to pay the entire cost to send them to a Weekend to Remember, a Christian marriage conference.
The girl, who I’ve never met sent me a long text trashing me for speaking to her husband in that manner. How dare I? I don’t even know him. (I reminded her of our ten year plus relationship)
She then described herself as a partial adult who could do what she wanted.
“Partial adult?” What the heck is that?
Needless to say, she couldn’t remain chaste while he was in training and they are no longer married.
Sad and completely predictable.