I will be fully honest with you. You have no way of knowing if the problem is with me or not. It is, of course, a possibility. If so, prayer ought to reveal it. If not, prayer will reveal that as well. With that said, I don’t currently believe I’m the primary cause of these issues. Clearly if I could rewind and do things differently there are some things I’d change, though it’s probably not as many as you’d think.
Regardless of all that, however, is the simple truth that some things I can’t just fix. I am a man, we like that sort of thing, but people aren’t machines that can be repaired by swapping out defective parts for new ones.
It took God Himself intervening in my life to “fix” me of the issues I was having as recently as five years ago. My family and friends tried and failed for years to fix my issues, where only God succeeded.
The uncaring truth is that my wife’s problems are outside of my control. They are, and must remain, firmly in God’s hands.
I do know because it is in something you said.
Let me tell you brother, we’ve all been there one way or another in our marriages.
“I’m angry and jealous towards people who have things I want that I don’t have.”
That’s an issue between you two.
I hear you brother. I had similar experience with God. Amen.
But let me ask you this. You say:
“The uncaring truth is that my wife’s problems are outside of my control.”
You and your wife are one flesh. How can it be “outside of your control”?