Continue to support the church that you love in any way that you can, while supporting your wife through her emotional difficulties. My mom can be like that, it was a constant struggle for my dad and mom to remain involved in anything as a couple because she’d inevitably get offended by somebody or something and not want to go anymore. Same with friends. She’s a widow now, my dad passed away. The longtime friends she still has refused to let her run them off, several of them told her so every time she started trying to be offended or stopped calling and visiting. Maybe some with your church that she still likes can attempt a similar approach.