Posted on 11/28/2016 10:34:54 AM PST by JamesP81
I need prayers for myself.
My wife got upset at something someone at church said. Yeah, I know, old story. This is in addition to a litany of other complaints she has that boils down to "I don't have any friends" and "I'm angry and jealous towards people who have things I want that I don't have." As you can imagine, those two are related.
She is refusing to go to our church. While I could (and did consider) putting my foot down on the issue, I believe it would've done more harm than good to our marriage. Sometimes people need to learn things the hard way for themselves by experience.
Still, I had to walk away from some low level leadership positions and a lot of friends. My friends aren't letting it come between our friendships, but it's still bitter for me and disappointing for a church that placed trust in me.
I'm trying really hard to not adopt a position of throwing my wife under the bus, but it's hard not to. She's brought all of this upon us.
I'm tired and emotionally drained from all this. Pray for my emotional healing and for my wife's instruction, that she would learn the things she needs to learn. For that matter, also that I'd learn the things I need to learn.
Also, for my (soon to be former) church. The church itself is struggling in many ways, and I love the people there. Breaks my heart to see what's going on. Breaks it more to leave the battle for reasons I have almost no control over.
THANK YOU!!!!
Keep going to church and participating as usual. Do not, I repeat, do not allow your commitment to God to be sabotaged.
Sounds like your wife and my ex could have been twins.
Forgive me if I am not recalling correctly but I thought you lived in or near a major city. If that is the case, go parish shopping. It’s better than suffering through a liberal homily every week.
Prayers up and continuing for the comfort and guidance of you and your family.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Can’t give you advice about the church, but as a doc I would say your wife sounds depressed.
Is she menopausal? A good medical checkup followed by a good therapist (not a feminist one but one that works to train her how to redirect her thinking to the positive, i.e. cognitive therapy_ often depressed folks get so involved in the negative that they don’t recognize that their thinking is exaggerated to see the negative).
As for your “directing” her: You are not her boss, but are supposed to love her as Christ loved the church.
I remember one Pentecost when the scriptures were read in six different languages simultaneously. It wasn’t a mass, it was experimental theater.
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