Posted on 11/28/2016 10:34:54 AM PST by JamesP81
I need prayers for myself.
My wife got upset at something someone at church said. Yeah, I know, old story. This is in addition to a litany of other complaints she has that boils down to "I don't have any friends" and "I'm angry and jealous towards people who have things I want that I don't have." As you can imagine, those two are related.
She is refusing to go to our church. While I could (and did consider) putting my foot down on the issue, I believe it would've done more harm than good to our marriage. Sometimes people need to learn things the hard way for themselves by experience.
Still, I had to walk away from some low level leadership positions and a lot of friends. My friends aren't letting it come between our friendships, but it's still bitter for me and disappointing for a church that placed trust in me.
I'm trying really hard to not adopt a position of throwing my wife under the bus, but it's hard not to. She's brought all of this upon us.
I'm tired and emotionally drained from all this. Pray for my emotional healing and for my wife's instruction, that she would learn the things she needs to learn. For that matter, also that I'd learn the things I need to learn.
Also, for my (soon to be former) church. The church itself is struggling in many ways, and I love the people there. Breaks my heart to see what's going on. Breaks it more to leave the battle for reasons I have almost no control over.
Heck, I am younger than 70, but I don’t think everything I have been taught my whole life is an utter lie.
I learned about Boyle’s Law and the Ideal Gas Law, and those aren’t false.
I have been fed a load of crap in a lot of cases, it is true, and I have had to relearn things, but I don’t think my education was an utter and complete lie.
I just don’t agree with your blanket statement.
I have always felt that one of the main purposes of education (of all kinds, not just “book learning”) serve the important purpose of allowing you to be an autodidact and teach yourself, learning what is wheat (true and useful) and what is chaff (lies or useless) and how to tell the difference.
I find the older I get, the more I realize I don’t know, but that is useful too.
Been there. Done that.
The verse that I repeat to myself on daily basis, multiple times every day is:
“Trust in the Lord with all your might.” Let Him lead you and follow Him without hesitation.
Simple. Short and sweet. And to the point. Hang in there.
WOW, noob, you are quite the sexist.
I pity ANY woman who gets entangled with such a manipulator as you.
To me that indicates that her issues go deeper than just happenings at church.
She needs to get a handle on just what she is so angry about. When she deals with that, the anger will go away.
I read through 50 of the posts and did not see my concern expressed. She could have a mental problem. I realize such things are very unlikely, but two men we are close to lost there wives for that reason. I cannot offer any insights about how to recognize a problem or cope with it.
Sure.
And I’m the queen of England.
I think anyone who has been paying attention can understand how corrosive and destructive liberalism and feminism (both things contain large doses of “Frankfurt School” dogma, from what I have gathered, not knowing much else about it) have been to our society.
While that is true, there is no excuse for those kind of abusive and manipulative antics in a healthy relationship.
Anyone who engages in those techniques is abusive and there are ALWAYS women who, for whatever perverted reason, seek out abusive relationships.
The only thing that’s satanic is that *Game* and it’s not based on ONE good spiritual thing. It’s from the pit.
Are you married?
I was just wondering if your wife is just a bit jealous of you and your friends. Maybe it will help if you gently put your arms around her and bring her into your circle. Let her know that you love her above friends but that she might get to love them as our do. To just give it a try. It is just so good to have friends together. My prayers for both of you.
A Godly Church will understand and help you.
My prayers for both of you.
>> She is refusing to go to our church. While I could (and did consider) putting my foot down on the issue, I believe it would’ve done more harm than good to our marriage
Ultimatums rarely work out.
As far as I’m concerned, Church/church is a moment between the individual and Christ. Other individuals (friends or not) shouldn’t be a factor.
How about trying something new alone with your wife — as friends?
FWIW, I continuously pray for patience and understanding ... as I have a recurring deficit.
I think you are insane. No woman with an IQ over 40 would have anything to do with you.
wise words
“OMG, you need to learn GAME yourself.
That’s a recipe for Divorce R@pe and suffering from the attendant Divorce Hemorrhoids for the remainder of your life.
To handle the 21st Century Woman, it is imperative that you INFLICT EMOTIONAL DIFFICULTIES on her. Not support. INFLICT.
LEARN GAME. IT IS YOUR ONLY HOPE.”
I suggest that you get psychiatric help, misogynistic pig. Maybe you need to find a boyfriend?
Prayers for you, James.
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