I was directly involved with my grandparent’s decline. I am blessed to have an honest brother who knows how to manage wealth. It is the least I can to do manage their care when it becomes an issue.
My brother in law has turned out to be a great asset in this situation. He’s basically taken on the duties of executor of both my Mother’s and Brother’s estates. He’s honest, and has a great handle on things.
He and my sister took my mother and brother in back in 2007 when my dad passed away. It was the right thing to do, even though it was stressful for them both.
You’re doing well to have a helpful brother. Mine was a hard-line 1960’s democrat, but I loved him anyway. Even though he was wrong.