Good advice. Over the years and through one long-term relationship and one marriage, I observed BOTH sides of the coin: sobriety and actively LUI; and it took me a long time to finally understand that I couldn't fix it no matter what I said or did. The LUI was nothing but trouble. Learned that the hard way. Years later, I married the "sober" one thinking it would be "safe". Later I realized I had made another mistake - he was a "dry drunk" - full of anger, needy and depressed. We had some good days, some good weeks, a few good years. But overall, it was very exhausting. After 13 years, I walked/ran. It was heartbreaking to leave that man - I really loved him. But my sanity, my health and my life finally took priority in the scheme of things. Please stay healthy and mindful of your own limits, Laz.
What’s a LUI?