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It's her wedding, her choice, and I wish for them the best day and a happy marriage that lasts, but the whole concept of hoity-toity expensive weddings just isn't my cup of tea. Sometimes it seems that people put more effort into wedding planning etc. than they do in their marriage thereafter.

Exactly. To me a lot of it now days for too many couple comes down to who can spend the most money and have the most lavish and most talked about wedding, how can they one up the other weddings they’ve been to. And nothing about the importance and seriousness of the actual marriage ceremony and the vows. And there are some TV shows that promote this – Four Weddings and Say Yes To The Dress, etc. And I am flabbergasted on the amount of money being spent on weddings now days.

And I notice in her post, that there is no mention of love, no mention of a lifelong commitment as husband and wife and no mention of any intention to ever start a family of their own and of course no mention of marriage being a sacrament, no mention of God. No, it’s all about the wedding “experience” - showing off how classy and sophisticated they are (most likely how sophisticated she thinks or wants people to think she is) and how she must be the center of attention.

If she doesn’t want guests to bring their children, that is her prerogative and her guests should absolutely respect that and find a babysitter or stay home. But then if you read the whole thing, she’s actually pissed that some guests decided not to come, as if “how dare they put their children before me!”

I get that unruly children and the parents who cannot keep them under control or who never taught them manners can certainly be unpleasant and I also get why, especially during the wedding ceremony, that a crying baby or an unruly toddler running up and down the aisle would be a distraction. But even if that were to happen, is her wedding really ruined? Is she somehow no less married? Does the world end if all eyes are not trained on her the entire time?

And my goodness, if she can’t handle that, how is this precious snowflake going to handle it when she finds out that married life is not always picture perfect and worthy of documenting on Pinterest.

Call me selfish, but at my wedding, I want to be the center of attention.

If you want kids at your wedding, fine. But my fiancé and I aren't even particularly fond of kids; why would we have them at our wedding?

What’s the over/under on how long this marriage will last?

If she doesn’t want guests to bring their children, that is her prerogative and her guests should absolutely respect that and find a babysitter or stay home. But then if you read the whole thing, she’s actually pissed that some guests decided not to come, as if “how dare they put their children before me!”

I noticed that, too. She actually seemed to believe that a couple of hundred people would prefer traveling to New York (from Kentucky, I guess) to pay attention to her over any other use of their time and resources.

I also get why, especially during the wedding ceremony, that a crying baby or an unruly toddler running up and down the aisle would be a distraction. But even if that were to happen, is her wedding really ruined? Is she somehow no less married? Does the world end if all eyes are not trained on her the entire time?

I was a bride's maid and giggled at something the little flower girl had done while trying to grab her hand to keep her still. Oooh weee, did we both get in trouble. Good grief, the wedding ceremony is supposed to be a happy time. People need to get over themselves. It's much more pleasant to remember 5 seconds of a flower girl doing what little ones do than an angry bride for the rest of the day.