And sometimes it’s the other way around. A woman marries a man at 18 just out of high school. He works a good job and supports the family. They have kids. The wife stays home and takes care of the children, the home, the meals, etc. Fifteen or twenty years go by and hubby starts an affair with his secretary. He tells the wife he wants a divorce so he can marry the new gal. Wife has no outside work experience and cannot find a job other than entry level, minimum wage. Child support isn’t nearly enough to pay the bills, feed and clothe the kids, pay the mortgage, the car, the gas, etc. Should the philandering husband get out of his responsibilities so easily especially since he was the one who broke the marriage?
Sorry, there are always two sides to a story. Divorce laws are supposed to be fair as well as realistic. Will some women take advantage? Sure. Just as some men do, too. Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment. The family is the nucleus of society. When that breaks down, civilization is not far behind. People SHOULD be more circumspect regarding marriage. It should not be entered into lightly. We are seeing the consequences for such mistakes.
Sorry but your argument doesn’t really matter one way or the other. From what I can tell going through one divorce myself: Is that all 50 states are no-fault. The woman you speak of should get alimony or maintenance for number of years. In addition to child support. But it really doesn’t matter who cheated on who as far as I am aware.
In the prior era what happened mattered. Not today.
Imagine a scenario such at this: Guy has a wife with 3 kids. She is a stay at home mom. He makes all the money and then she has an affair with his best friend. In the “best interest” of the child she is most likely to be the custodial parent and keep the house. Her ex husband can watch his former best friend and his ex wife get married, live together in his old house while he is alienated from his kids and helps pay their bills.
You can do worst case scenarios for each sex. But family courts overwhelmingly favor the woman. And since women initiate approximately 70% of the divorces you know millions of men are reluctant or just hostile to marriage. And many women have such low standards, that these guys don’t really have a problem finding a girlfriend for love/affection. It’s messed up no doubt.