[publius911]

I sense a few issues with your post, well-intentioned though you may see yourself.
I am positive that you are female. Also I see extensive psychotherapy in your past. What was the main tipoff?

Your studious avoidance of the word "sex." That word is a neutral, central and necessary descriptive within all of biology. Sex is a descriptive of most living things; "gender" is a quality of words.

A real professional, unburdened examination of what I thought you were attempting, is the excellent 1997 book, Sex on the Brain, by Deborah Blum. I deem the title sadly misleading; snowflakes of all ages may deem it suggestive.

It is a serious book, professionally written, highly informative and thought provoking.

[yefragetuwrabrumuy]

Wrong, a lot. No issues, wrong gender. What I wrote I have written about many times before on this forum. It was something of shorthand for those other writings. Much of it is backed by statistics.