Let me guess, if you argue with any claims, no matter how outrageous, that’s a symptom. If you shut up and don’t argue, that’s a symptom. I bet if you agree, that’s some sort of co-opting maneuver that is also a symptom, and in fact, there is no correct response to accusations of racism except abject apology followed by suicide.
How about answering, “So what! I don’t care!”
No matter what you say they’re going to brand you a racist, just agree and tell them you just don’t care!
Everything whitey does is either macro- or micro-aggression. Can’t move into the ‘hood - you’re gentrifying “their” neighborhoods. Can’t move outta the ‘hood - white flight is racist. There is absolutely no winning for melanin-challenged citizens.