I’m about to learn me some shootin with a Springfield XDM 9mm. Have heard some great things about it. The owner of said gun is the most accurate shooter at his range.
The finest female handgun instructor I know personally carries the earlier XD version, also in a 9mm, and she most certainly knows what she's doing.
While some of the male instructors at the range where she teaches think they're better or faster pistol shots, I've seen the morgue photos of the goof who made the error of thinking she was an easy victim. First mistake.
When she had a shotgun available. Last mistake.
I have no doubt that she'd have done just as well with her XD. For a while a couple of years back it was a little hard to find replacement parts and holsters for the XD/ XDM. No longer.