Do you know that many 4 year old, who live in a dysfunctional family, whose biological father is a criminal ?
The family I know with the biological father that did time for a felony is not in the least dysfunctional. Mom stays home with child while dad works his butt off to provide for them.
No dysfunction there, other than some depression and anxiety in all of us, because we realize that their 6 year old (my GS) will end up in a group home sooner, rather than later. He is non-verbal so he won’t even be able to tell us if he is being abused.
So yes, in your mind, we may be a dysfunctional family.