Shouldn’t management be held accountable for not enforcing policies equally across the board? Some people, men and women both, calculate what they can get away with, and do no more than that.
That the managers are too weeny to do their job is a bad reflection on them. They are allowing the bad behavior you speak of.
I think management should be held accountable. But they are often afraid. My husband had two cases of pregnant (out of wedlock) employees who he wanted to fire because of absenteeism, laziness, etc. One he did eventually fire and, sure enough, some piece of legalize showed up on his desk ordering him down to City Hall in NYC to defend his actions. The lazy preggers didn’t even bother showing up for her hearing! A total work day wasted. I think the second lazy preggers quit on her own. I suggested he hire only men from now on! I don’t think he listened.