Mom claimed he was milking it.
These words caught my attention... In the past two years, two people I know suffered strokes... One a family friend, I know by marriage... The second, a sibling. In both cases, people related in care giving, used this language regarding these stroke victims.
But at the same time, the words used to describe these two people, were they have lost the ability to filter their communication. The brain is very complex, and I do not think anyone can accurately know the full damage to the brain from a stroke.
I have great empathy for the stroke victim and the care givers, because of all the unknowns... Tell your mom, to have patience with your dad... He is not the same person he once was.
I really believe something must have happened in his head where it didn’t even occur to him to pick up the glass or spoon.
The reason she said that is sometimes he had to be nudged to do things he could do himself. But maybe she didn’t realize it just wasn’t clicking in his head.
Kind of like when we miss the obvious or we get too slow on the uptake to figure it out.