A year ago I don't think I would have understood your definition of sin, but now I agree with you.
The number one attraction in relationships (what creates chemistry) is that we are attracted toward someone who's personality is similar to someone else with whom we have unresolved conflict.I thank you for "confirming" a suspicion I've had. I was bounced around a bit growing up, which might be a reason why I was a bit of a late bloomer in pretty much everything, including dating.
While trying to figure things out by watching family and friends, what you describe is what I saw them struggling with in their serial dating, relationships and marriages.
It was always interesting to me how when raising kids was a part of the relationship how those issues really popped up to the surface causing all kinds of problems, which now makes sense given what you've said in your post.
Unfortunately, it's also sorta twisted how what is designed to cleanse us can instead do the opposite.
"Wash, rinse, repeat until the stains are out" seems to be the universal subroutine, but it only works well if the feedback loops aren't disabled. Otherwise, one's cycle gets stuck in repeat.
The mind can rationalize anything, so it's fairly easy for it to get stuck and then just make things comfortable in denial.
So often when life's little perfect storms come against us in the wrong moment we just react, perhaps out of habit, by repeating the original mistake(s) and thus perpetuating the damage.
Sad, too, how the damage in people then gets passed along, often from one generation to the next as though forging another link in a long chain of inheritance.
Fortunately, as you've talked about frequently, we also have what we need to break every link in those chains and it doesn't require a prescription. It only requires constant use.
And it's a fun habit to acquire, too! A total game changer in every way.
Thank you, again, for your posts here!
No thanks to me. All thanks should always go upward.
The secret ingredient necessary to step out of the loop of repeating difficult patterns in relationships is prayer.
The really interesting thing I have found is that healing the earliest wound automatically heals all similar wounds that have occurred during a person’s life. They drop away like dominoes falling, instantly.
This is especially true when the perceptual programming event was the feeling of rejection felt by a baby who was put up for adoption. Memories start at conception. I can even tell what the mother thought of the father while the child was in the mother’s womb, even if that child is now 70 years old!
I do quite a bit of work with parents or spouses disabled by the grief of losing a child or mate. Usually the grief can be healed in a few minutes permanently without even discussing the loss they are thinking about. I have found the same to be true of PTSD.