You don’t have to figure out “women”, you just have to figure out one “woman”.
And just like men, not all women are the same, or created equally in many aspects.
As a woman I’d like to say your post is the most thoughtful and correct.
You are correct.
I knew a nerdy guy that upset his wife. He went out and got some realistic fake flowers and when he gave them to he said “You can dust this kind off”. She rolled her eyes and smiled at him and hugged him. She knew he was sincere and that’s how he is.
They’ve been married almost 40 years now.