A full guide thanks to G.Orwell in post 32:
Okay, how do you stop the automatic updating? How do you find that folder if you do have it?
CLICK START BUTTON
RIGHT CLICK COMPUTER
RIGHT CLICK PROPERTIES
CLICK WINDOWS UPDATES
CLICK CHANGE SETTINGS
IN THE IMPORTANT UPDATE SECTION SCROLL AND SELECT NEVER CHECK FOR UPDATES
Every now and then manually check for updates and select only the ones you want
Thanks for that. Much appreciated.