No, I don’t know them. I do know 14 year-old boys though, having been one myself and having raised nine of them. Each one was vastly singular and dangerously stupid in different ways. I thank God that they all lived—personally, I take no credit.
Obviously, you have all your children under lock-and-key at all times, and I’ll not condemn you for that either. I’m pretty sure that these folks didn’t tell their boys to go to the Bahamas on their own. If they did, then I would have another response, but for now, I can only pray that the family is comforted in this time of loss.
>>Obviously, you have all your children under lock-and-key at all times,
Discipline them at an early age and you don’t need to keep them under lock and key as teenagers. They’ll still do stupid things, but they will know that there are consequences—not just when they get home, but real consequences that can hurt.
Actually, keeping them under lock and key (i.e. gated communities, play dates, concierge service for drop off/pick up at school for 12 years, etc) is why kids do not know the real consequences of stupid actions these days. They never get to learn any valuable life lessons until they are old enough to do truly deadly things.