I know how you are, T-c...I’ve lived in your house! You are sacrificing yourself at the expense of other people/things, and it should be the other way around. Father is doing you a disservice by not recognizing that you are over-taxed with “THINGS.”
I can see what it is doing to you, and probably a lot of other FReepers can, as well. And all I can say is, since Father gave you an inch, take it and RUN!
I don’t know Norma or what her life is like, but if you went together to petition Father, it means that her life is in chaos, too.
It goes back to “eyes being bigger than the belly.” It never works, no matter how thin you spread yourself. So beat a hasty retreat and quit volunteering. You are worth FAR more than what the committees are willing to give in return.
And besides...next time I visit, I want to see a real person, not a shell who walks, talks and acts like T-c but is really a Stepford Wife...
Norma is lady in her late 60s who was born in Puerto Rico but has lived in the U.S. most of her life. We’re supporting one another! (Another of our overcommitted ladies, Nilda, is in Puerto Rico dealing with Tenants From Hell.)
It’s not that we can’t show up for meetings and do something: it’s just the anxiety we have over doing it will enough. We need to remember that we’re just tiny cells in a big organism, and the results don’t really depend on us very much.
I just hope you’ll be well enough to visit! You need to go to the spine doctor!