When he went back to the car, he asked her if she was ok.. So how was she acting for him to ask her this question? We have no idea, but she could have been acting as though she was under the influence of something. Then he asked her if she was upset at which point she became verbally aggressive which could also be indicative of alcohol or drugs.
THEN he asked her to put the cigarette out...... He had already decided at that point, he was going to ask her to get out of the car and he didn’t want her getting out with a lit cigarette in her hand, possibly afraid of her burning him.
Local news says it is SOP to ask for people to put out their cigarettes because they can be used as a weapon . She was also a “ social justice activist “ . Whatever . She was looking for a fight .