Both of those are your opinions! You do know you have advocated both positions don't you? These two opinions are in conflict; they are not compatible. That is why I'm pointing these things out to you.
I'm starting to think there may be a problem here that I'm ill-equipped to address.
You are definitely right, you cannot be both an honorable gentleman and a traitor. I have to agree with you.
Since Lee definitely met the test for being a traitor as outlined in Article III, Section 3 of the US Constitution (levying war against the United States), I am force to conclude that he was not an honorable gentleman.
Does that clear up my position?