To each his own.
I’d like to go to CPCC and pay Tom’s tuition, and to Walmart for milk, but I know that Kathleen will go in her diaper at the first opportunity, and I don’t want her to win!
Kathleen is getting attention by messing in her diapers. Not the kind of attention she needs, but it is how she gets it. I dunno, but I think if it were me, I would just not fuss and not insist. But maybe that’s what my mother did with my son.