My cousin is a stable enough guy with a monogamous relationship and he is a distinguished government worker with numerous awards. I can't fathom gay anything, but he's fine to be around.
I personally believe that gay attraction is a mental illness or at least a profound defect. Both of my gay relations are dead branches on the family tree because they have been afflicted with same-sex attraction. Some handle it well but most don't.
I think you are right.