If you have no dog in the fight, you certainly went to the wall insulting my take on the situation (”ridiculous”, “absurd”, etc), which if you reread my post, did not imply the absoluteness you infer; but rather offered other scenarios without declaring them to be an absolute norm, as many of the embittered divorced persons on this thread have been doing.
I’ve done a great deal of research on the topic and am more than aware that no one’s individual situation is applicable to all. Yet many of the discouraged persons on here are commiserating hopelessly and in agreement that it is all the fault of the opposite sex. That is sad for them going forward. Both parties need to learn from the experience, for the sake of their kids, so that they don’t pass on bitterness and hopelessness to them. Passivity and lack of accountability in relationships leads to breakdown as surely as active abuse.
As I’ve written up-thread this is not a male-female issue. It is a lawyer-government issue. Through the law and the state’s jurisdiction they have turned marriage into an absurd legal contract with the government. I blame them as well as those who condone it under the ridiculous pretense of ‘men-can-be-bad’ -such as yourself. Just because some individuals can be bad does not justify unconscionable statutes and judgments.
The reasoning you have displayed on this thread is repugnant. It’s akin to a FReeper defending widespread presumptive civil asset forfeiture based upon less than 1% of cases showing cause. It’s unreasonable -to put it kindly.
Please keep your issues to yourself.