You have no idea what you are talking about.
The South did just about everything they could to avoid war including allowing a Federal Fort to control the entrance to their main port.
Lincoln made a call for 75,000 volunteers with no other possible reason than to invade the South. He also sent a ship to resupply Fort Sumter. The South had told him they would not attack it but they could not leave Fort Sumter in control of Charleston Harbor. If he resupplied the fort they had no choice.
The South at first refused to invade the North tho it might have won the war after Bull Run. They simply wanted to be left alone.
The North invaded the South. It is as simple as that.
Pot? Meet kettle.
Avoiding war by firing on a Federal Fort. Sort of like screwing for virginity. Lincoln called up 75,000 volunteers after the Confederate Government decided to start a war by firing on Fort Sumter. They had a choice,
Anderson told Beauregard that he would surrender the fort
with in 48 hours if not resupplied. Davis order Beauregard to open fire before any resupply effort could be carried out, even thou the resupply was food for the garrison. The reason the south wanted to be left alone was so that 3,000,000 slaves could continue to plant their cotton, tobacco, rice and indigo unencumbered by such concepts as freedom.