We’re genetically programed to select mates based on ability to propagate our genes, an older successful man has the means to afford multiple children and wisdom and wealth to pass on.
A younger woman has the ability to bear many children.
Worse, before Ignatz Semmeweis women often died following childbirth, and mothers had to be replaced. The only cohort available was the younger one.
I agree.
That said, I do believe we are men and not animals, and so can control our urges along these lines, so saying we are wired for it doesn’t give men carte blanche to act in any fashion that pleases them (although some do)