Well, it does sound like you caught a bad one! In my case though...
1. She ran up major debts
2. She went to bars every night while I watched our son
3. She bedded every male she met at the bars.
4. She took trips to Vegas to meet with her boyfriend
Sounds like feminism to me. Yes, I caught a bad one and probably should have known better. This happened after 8 years of marriage with no problems that I knew about - mid life crisis on her part was my guess.
I guess it depends on way too many things to keep generalizing. Anyway, not all situations are so easy to classify, with that I agree!
That is really not feminism. All that could have easily happened in the 1940's or 50's