Well, you are a very unusual case but maybe that’s because he had contacts with lawyers.
The usual outcome (and I’m sure that you would have to agree) is that the woman get more than half along with alimony and child support. Rarely is the male given child support even if granted primary custody (I know).
So while you may have suffered, the majority of women make out very well during a divorce which I imagine you know but are a bit angry that you did not.
The one thing that I would agree with is that if you gave up a promising career to get married and become a housewife, then you should be re-reimbursed enough to provide time to get a decent job. Actually, most men that I know would do that out of decency and love of their wife during a divorce unless it was because of her cheating.
Now if he actually liked men, shame on you for not knowing that before getting married. I would thing that if he is not wanting sex every night or more for the first year or so, he might be questionable, heh.