Don’t expect your spouse to read your mind or to have the same idotisyncrcis as you do. I am an uptight foodie. He is not. I recognize differences in lettuces,and other types of greens and he does not.
I tried visual clues. Asked him to bring home some scallions since he worked next door to the grocery store. Sent him a picture so he would know what to look for. He brought home leeks. We still laugh bout that.
Laughter is better than anger.
sounds like you have a happy marriage! at least i hope so. :)