“I do it she has the nerve to complain - I just look at her with a smile and say “Do it your damn self.”
I should be like that - I just stop doing it.
This topic resonates with me. My wife used to criticize how I did things such as dishes and laundry. I felt like I was judged by an ever shifting groups of criteria as to what was expected of me in different situations.
We never separated. We stayed married. I’m widowed now. But looking back I feel like her perfectionist controlling behavior caused a lot of unnecessary conflict over inconsequential matters.