That's how it started. I launched into him. I berated him for not being smarter. Why would he not get the more healthy option? Did he even read the labels? Why can't I trust him? Do I need to spell out every little thing for him in minute detail so he gets it right? Also, and the thing I was probably most offended by, why wasn't he more observant? How could he not have noticed over the years what I always get? Does he not pay attention to anything I do?
THE VERY FIRST TIME she did this, he should have calmly stopped everything in its tracks, sat her down and discussed her attitude. He should have pointed out that her specific concerns and issues were absolutely nothing - nothing - compared to the angry, insulting, contemptuous, arrogant, abusive and utterly disrespectful attitude she was taking towards him. He should have pointed out that such an attitude was her real reason for getting upset over trivialities - to provide and excuse for expressing abuse. He should have also said that he does not deserve such scathing contempt, by her or by anyone else, but especially by her. And then, if she didn't apologize, express understanding of the actual issue and promise not to repeat it (up to and including getting psychological help if she couldn't stop), he should have left her, up to and including getting a divorce.
What she did did was THAT bad. And she did it because she's a feminist, and her "sisters" all do it and require each other to do it, because it reinforces their contempt for men, and inevitably results in divorce or utterly crushed men who end up deserving contempt for their rejection if their own manhood. And so they practice abuse to invoke responses they can hold in contempt, from victims who are NOT cowed by them, but rather horrified and dismayed by the emotional rape they are perpetrating when they indulge in their abuse addiction.
This is not a mere "relationship problem" - this woman, and women like her, are spiritual poison. If they won't change, then get away from them. No matter what it costs to get away, because it's nothing close to what it will cost to stay. These women are spiritual berserkers who have given their allegiance to the feminist collective and who, in doing so, have already abandoned their families. They WILL destroy everyone they know, in the same way an alcoholic will. They are NOT what they claim to be - they are hateful liars, looking for victims. And they get their strength from their collective "sisters" who all reinforce each other.
This isn't a paranoid rant - it's the sober truth.
That's how it started. I launched into him. I berated him for not being smarter. Why would he not get the more healthy option? Did he even read the labels? Why can't I trust him? Do I need to spell out every little thing for him in minute detail so he gets it right? Also, and the thing I was probably most offended by, why wasn't he more observant? How could he not have noticed over the years what I always get? Does he not pay attention to anything I do? "
THE VERY FIRST TIME she did this, he should have calmly stopped everything in its tracks, sat her down and discussed her attitude. He should have pointed out that her specific concerns and issues were absolutely nothing - nothing - compared to the angry, insulting, contemptuous, arrogant, abusive and utterly disrespectful attitude she was taking towards him. He should have pointed out that such an attitude was her real reason for getting upset over trivialities - to provide and excuse for expressing abuse. He should have also said that he does not deserve such scathing contempt, by her or by anyone else, but especially by her. And then, if she didn't apologize, express understanding of the actual issue and promise not to repeat it (up to and including getting psychological help if she couldn't stop), he should have left her, up to and including getting a divorce.
What she did did was THAT bad. And she did it because she's a feminist, and her "sisters" all do it and require each other to do it, because it reinforces their contempt for men, and inevitably results in divorce or utterly crushed men who end up deserving contempt for their rejection if their own manhood. And so they practice abuse to invoke responses they can hold in contempt, from victims who are NOT cowed by them, but rather horrified and dismayed by the emotional rape they are perpetrating when they indulge in their abuse addiction.
This is not a mere "relationship problem" - this woman, and women like her, are spiritual poison. If they won't change, then get away from them. No matter what it costs to get away, because it's nothing close to what it will cost to stay. These women are spiritual berserkers who have given their allegiance to the feminist collective and who, in doing so, have already abandoned their families. They WILL destroy everyone they know, in the same way an alcoholic will. They are NOT what they claim to be - they are hateful liars, looking for victims. And they get their strength from their collective "sisters" who all reinforce each other.
This isn't a paranoid rant - it's the sober truth.
A couple of phrases in the excerpt you posted jumped out at me. They claim their abuse is justified because their husbands aren't mind readers, and haven't worshiped the ground that they walk on:
I berated him for not being smarter....Why can't I trust him? Do I need to spell out every little thing for him in minute detail so he gets it right?....How could he not have noticed over the years what I always get? Does he not pay attention to anything I do?--------
Now the men who were holding Jesus in custody were mocking him as they beat him.
They also blindfolded him and kept asking him, “Prophesy! Who is it that struck you?”
- Luke 22:63-64
There are too many husbands who are little boys when it comes to dealing with wives, who can be a handful...
But, short of injury, they are the same people that married. Show some freaking backbone, and speak up!