Where do you get this "Every evil"? Not at all. I merely point out that the destruction of Federalism began with Lincoln. He was the first initiator of an Imperial Federal mindset. Others have followed after him. They simply added to his precedent.
I know I shouldn't - but I have to ask: How do you think things would have been any different or measurably better had Lincoln allowed the slavers to split the nation?
I do not know that they would be "better", but I do know that whether a woman would be "better" off with her husband, she still ought to have the choice of leaving him if she chooses.
Do you believe a woman should be forced against her will to remain in a marriage? Even if it is best for her?
That's a fairly idiotic analogy. You want to try again?