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Hugh Hefner’s dirty little secret
LIFE SITE ^ | Jonathon van Maren

Posted on 10/09/2014 9:42:04 AM PDT by Morgana

Hugh Hefner has been idolized by millions of men of dubious morals for his “Playboy” lifestyle—his huge mansion, never-ending stream of celebrity guests, and, of course, the girls. He is considered the ultimate playboy, the silk-pajamaed icon of the Sexual Revolution, the man who brought “free love” to the free market and made a killing.

He’s also sexually dysfunctional.

In her emotionally mauling book Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, researcher Gail Dines writes how the infamous TV show "The Girls Next Door," which started in 2005, "provides a sanitized version of life at the Playboy mansion, never showing the reality of the experiences for the young women who live and sleep with eighty-three-year-old Hefner."

Perhaps most revealingly, she points out how Izabella St James, one of Hefner's 'ex-girlfriends,' has written that while Hefner would often often have unprotected sex with multiple women, he could not reach sexual completion without using pornography and stimulating himself.

That’s right. Porn, the most viral manifestation of the Sexual Revolution, is reducing millions of men to pathetic dependents desperately scrolling through thousands of pictures and videos—and causing many of them to become impotent. Even a man with a non-stop stream of beautiful women sleeping with him, one of the most easily recognizable sex icons of our time, cannot get off without porn.

But it is us, supposedly, who are “anti-sex.”

Those of us who hold to a Judeo-Christian view of sexual ethics are invariably accused of being “prudes” or “anti-sex.” Rejecting the Sexual Revolution and the host of new sexually transmitted diseases, incalculable amount of psychological physical pain, broken marriages, porn addictions, and aborted and dismembered “love” children that it brought with it, it seems, is the primary way to loudly declare yourself a cultural heretic.

Let me break it down. We, apparently, are the ones who are “anti-sex” because we elevate sex as an action of such significance that it should take place in a loving, committed context - marriage - one that is, incidentally, also the best context in which to raise children. We recognize that sex is an extraordinarily powerful human experience, one that we toy with or abuse at our peril. But the Sexual Revolutionaries insist that this is archaic and foolish. “More sex,” they say, “more sex, all the time and with whomever you’d like.”

Someone should make these people take economics. Basic rule: If you commodify something, you cheapen it. We’ve put cash prices on intimate human experiences, and we’ve created an industry that amounts to nothing more than a trade in human flesh. I’m no anti-capitalist, but some things should not be bought and sold. But now that millions have been pimped out by the Sexual Revolution, we do just that. We treat sex like a game or a toy. And, like over-enthusiastic children, we’ve broken it.

Here are just a very brief sampling of a few recent headlines:

- “Porn causing erectile dysfunction in young men”—Global News - “Internet pornography destroying men’s ability to perform with real women”—Daily Mail - “Does porn contribute to erectile dysfunction?”—Psychology Today

I often wonder why more people don’t see the sad irony in this. Like thirsty men and women guzzling salt water, we simply inflame our lusts with pornography, dehydrating ourselves of the true human intimacy we crave. Rather than recognizing it for the poison that it is, we claim that porn is a sex aid, or carefree recreation, or even a tool for helping a flagging marriage. Clinging to this cultural delusion is doing precisely the opposite of what the Sexual Revolutionaries promised us it would do: It’s killing sex.

Yet when people try to point this out—from self-described radical feminist Gail Dines to the Christian scholars who warned that this would happen before we even pried open Pandora’s Box—it is they who get called “anti-sex.”

Hugh Hefner built an empire selling the bodies of young, attractive women and men to millions, but his cash has not stopped him from becoming enslaved by his own product. When I consider that the very man who is envied by millions for the sexual lifestyle he leads can himself only find pleasure in the pale substitute for human intimacy he markets to the masses, it brings to mind something Christopher Hitchens once said, when responding to a Marxist in his audience. The quotation perfectly fits this circumstance as well.

“Well, there you have it, ladies and gentlemen. There you have it," Hitchens said. "You see how far the termites have spread, and how long and well they’ve dined.”

And so they have.


TOPICS: Education; Society
KEYWORDS: dirtyoldman; moralabsolutes; porn; sexualdysfunction
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To: humblegunner
Historical analysis guides the data filtering routine. You can tell me all day and twice on Sunday but if'n I don't like it then it goes into the trash.

Your prerogative. Watch for that baby when you empty the tub of water.
101 posted on 10/09/2014 11:17:19 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: Resettozero; Lazamataz

I don’t have prerogatives.

I’m just a program. I run like the code says.


102 posted on 10/09/2014 11:18:52 AM PDT by humblegunner
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To: Morgana

Maybe he did. Maybe that’s why he chose this path.


103 posted on 10/09/2014 11:21:16 AM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: Resettozero
Otherwise, it may have wound up like Hustler and other stinky stuff.

It wound up becoming a hard core sex TV channel is what it became

104 posted on 10/09/2014 11:22:39 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: trisham

He sure did not learn from Dr. Kinsey. We know how Kinsey died.


105 posted on 10/09/2014 11:23:16 AM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: oh8eleven

I am every child molester says the same thing

how many lives has he ruined in the process?


106 posted on 10/09/2014 11:23:37 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Morgana

Of heart disease and pneumonia?


107 posted on 10/09/2014 11:26:06 AM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: Resettozero; Vermont Lt

too many are NOT offended by the right things


108 posted on 10/09/2014 11:26:47 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Vermont Lt

109 posted on 10/09/2014 11:27:11 AM PDT by Brother Cracker (You are more likely to find krugerrands in a Cracker Jack box than 22 ammo at Wal-Mart)
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To: Morgana
if you tell me you are male and against porn it will be like music to my ears.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4_gFF-z9OS8

And I can espouse that abstinence from porn is better for the soul and far better for one's longterm happiness than the isolated moment of thrill or whatever.
110 posted on 10/09/2014 11:29:08 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: GeronL
So according to you, publishing PB is the same as being a pedophile? And reading PB has destroyed lives?
I sure hope that whatever you do for a living doesn't require using the few gray cells that might still be functioning.
111 posted on 10/09/2014 11:31:10 AM PDT by oh8eleven (RVN '67-'68)
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To: Morgana
"you ever notice that it’s usually the women on FR who seem to notice this?"

Because women are morally superior to men...all the way back to Eve.

Oh, wait...

112 posted on 10/09/2014 11:31:25 AM PDT by CatherineofAragon ((Support Christian white males---the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization.))
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To: Quality_Not_Quantity

Don’t read the deep throat story. It’s gross. But it’s in there.
Lovelaces husband told her to do it for hef.

Sorry.


113 posted on 10/09/2014 11:32:53 AM PDT by longfellow (Bill Maher, the 21st hijacker.)
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To: PGR88
Character-wise, I imagine nearly all would be even more cynical, empty-headed, greedy, selfish or downright stupid. Why would anyone go to the "Playboy Mansion" otherwise?

Psychologically, they are a self-selectd group. It is nothing to admire or emulate, for either sex.

114 posted on 10/09/2014 11:33:14 AM PDT by Praxeologue
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To: GeronL
It wound up becoming a hard core sex TV channel is what it became.

Never would say it's a good thing. Although I don't get cable or satellite TV on purpose, I am not oblivious to the available outlets for sexual draw that are prevalent in this declined culture. Draw for women as well as men.
115 posted on 10/09/2014 11:33:53 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: CatherineofAragon; Morgana

My husband is morally superior to me. Nicer, too.


116 posted on 10/09/2014 11:34:28 AM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: tanknetter
Hef isn’t impotent. He’s simply denying the women his precious bodily fluids.

Bonus points awarded for your post.

Strangelove

117 posted on 10/09/2014 11:36:05 AM PDT by Alex Murphy ("the defacto Leader of the FR Calvinist Protestant Brigades")
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To: Morgana

Or this version...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nLIzRBelEf8


118 posted on 10/09/2014 11:36:40 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: Resettozero

Not anti Christian. I have had folks (not on this thread) start shooting bible quotes at me, as if they think they are going to convert someone on the internet. Or perhaps they are trying to exorcise whatever possesses me.

I could not care less what relgion someone practices, or doesn’t practice. Just like what you do in your house and family is generally no business of mine. (Unless someone is getting hurt, obviously.)

I would not more try to convince you to change your beliefs in God than I would try to make you change your eye color. Religion is not like a favorite sports team. You are not going to change mine, nor I yours. If you want to spend time with me after the tribulation—well, that’s your choice. You are going to have to guess where I am going to be.

I respect folks with a strong belief system. How come they find it so easy to disrespect others?


119 posted on 10/09/2014 11:38:07 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: RJS1950

Porn is a symptom of our decline, not a cause.


120 posted on 10/09/2014 11:41:40 AM PDT by IronJack
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