Yes, all’s well that ends, as your late mother so wisely observed.
I’ve been thinking, since I got home, that maybe I should take the CNA course. Then I could spend my days doing everything for people who can’t take care of themselves, as opposed to doing everything for people who are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves, but won’t.
What a noble idea! My mother had been trained as an LPN (such duties as the position required 50 years ago) so when we were taking care of my dad, she taught me things that I have never forgotten.
You deserve to be relieved of some of the responsibility of the young adults under your roof who should be responsible but choose not to be. My patience with them would have long ago worn thin, and I would have put my foot down.
But that's me. My kids knew that unless they were in college, they were expected to go into the military or find other gainful employment away from home. They both served honorably and their lives are stable, now. They even both thanked me for moving them around so much (military, donchaknow?) during their childhoods because it has helped them to get along with EVERYone!