I gave up on that years ago. I am one of those women that if I want something done, after a certain time of waiting, would just do it myself. I have mowed lawns, put in new faucets, etc. I finally figured out that he figured out that if he waited long enough I’d get mad and just do it myself. Now I hire EVERYTHING done. I have a handyman. I tell Hubby _______is coming tomorrow to fix_______. I also have a gardener and a housekeeper. I figured if he didn’t have to mow lawns I don’t have to clean house.
Now we don’t fight about getting stuff done. Lol
You have a good system going.
My wife had an endless to do list of things to be done around the house, and used to bitch about things constantly. Weekends were hell. We had to go to Home Depot and get this and that for the house or the yard. I did lots of cleaning house and chores, laundry, etc. But no matter what I did it was never enough or done well enough
to suit her.
Bottom line I could seldom come home and relax in my own house. There was always some task or chore to be done.
I am gun shy about getting married again due to this. Marriage and living together changes the dynamic, the interaction. I like female companionship, but, am reluctant to get that companionship through marriage. I do have a woman in my life now, but, she lives in her house and I live in mine. Suits me.