Let me refer you to my previous statement:I am against abortion; I am, however, not willing to injure the Constitution's restraints on the federal government in order to achieve it.
The same goes with homosexual marriage.
And, yes, ceding the power to define marriage to the federal government does injure the Constitution; specifically, the tenth amendment.
The powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the States, are reserved to the States respectively, or to the people.
That is a fake argument for your fighting conservatism.
The feds DO have the right to decide who is married in the military, and they always have, they also have control over their own medical facilities.
Quit this game playing.