[Slyfox]

Okay, he spends a few minutes asking for sex, but probably didn't spend much time wooing her.

Ya gotta turn on a coffee maker before you get coffee.

[metmom]

Okay, he spends a few minutes asking for sex, but probably didn't spend much time wooing her.

Ya gotta turn on a coffee maker before you get coffee.

As a disclaimer, I realize this doesn't apply to everyone, cause there are always going to be people who will never be satisfied no matter what you do for them.....

You bring up a good point. IF he's ignoring her except for sex, she's not going to be terribly accommodating. She's going to perceive it that he's not interested in her for anything but what she can do for him and no woman wants to feel like she's being used, especially by her own husband.

That couple could use some good marriage counseling.

[TalonDJ]

Okay, he spends a few minutes asking for sex, but probably didn't spend much time wooing her.

Look at it from his perspective. He could spend a while trying to get her warmed up and then he gets shot down... or he could just ask and get shot down right away. Saves time.

Why does he have to do all the work? He has to work hard to get her fired up, then he had to do a larger share of the physical work (in some standard in face configurations). Why? Shouldn't she actually put in some effort? Sorry ladies, but if you shot a man down 9 times out of time he is not going to see foreplay as a worthwhile investment. Put out even when you are not that interested and he will be more interested in listening to your needs. He just does not care that much about your needs when his aren't even close to being met. In the grand scheme of things YOUR needs are a lot more work than his. So have some perspective. It is well documented that the less sex women get they less they want. So denying him to hold out for more attention is a losing proposition.