Well, I went through a emotionally compromising divorce.
I met a woman in a motel lounge one day, about a year later and in a couple weeks we will celebrate our 34th anniversary.
I don’t think there is any rule or gauge you can use to find a good mate. But whatever it was that we did, seemed to work pretty well. She was also divorced and with two kids. I raised them, and one of my own and in a few months I will be a Great Grandfather.
Good luck to you...hope some of mine rubs off..but if marriage is really not something you really want to have, then don’t try. It won’t end well.
You never know where your angel will find you. I’ve been divorced twice, and my current GF is the best mate I’ve ever had. I’m blessed every day I’m with her.