“but now the courts favor any kind of nasty biological parent over any upstanding adoptive parent”
It’s important that it be that way... Overall, there is no substitute for the natural parent. Even if they pick their nose and eat peanut butter out of the jar.
I disagree completely. But it depends on the situation; and family situations are complex, so there are no easy, one-size-fits-all answers, as you are trying to lay down here.