Yes. Took care of both mom and dad. Mom after hip replacement surgery was put in a rehab facility and promptly over dosed on oxycontin until she was looney. Then they worked up (the “staff” moron doctor did) an alzheimer’s diagnosis based on her drug reaction. We got her home for home care and to wean her off the oxycontin. Rate then (this was 2005) was 17/hour, with certified sitters at night, skilled nursing in the day.
Became impossible financially. Once weaned and back to normal with limitations, we placed mom in Assisted Living and she loved it, then gradually fading, moved “down the hall” to full nursing. All of this was much less than home care.
Word to the wise: take out everything of value in the home, all the silver, collectibles, spoons, gold, coins collections.... whatever. The people are bonded— but they steal. We caught two (both of them Indian women from India) on their hands and knees picking up a secreted silver serving spoon we had “lost”. Swore out a warrant on them and demanded a full refund for their entire time paid... and got it.
It is tough to care for our loved ones with the goal of comfort and personal dignity. Hope this has helped. Go with Assisted Living if possible, first. Never hospice at home, and only hospice facility if there is pain (as in terminal cancer), because they will push morphine on any patient, who will then no longer be hungry and will simply starve and dehydrate to death (from the morphine). Morphine is fine if terminal cancer or pain, but naught else. Also, keep in mind that the decision for hospice puts your loved one in the care of the hospice physician (no longer any personal physician involved— legally is detached from the care).