If we were to assume that life evolved REMOTELY close to the way we did, and that the big bang theory is true just for argument, then only within the last couple hundredish years have any civs had radio.
Our own TV transmissions are still decades away from the closest star. Much less another galaxy.
The first TV transmission passed Alpha Centauri in 1932.
It took us four billion years to get from algae to us. There were a lot of tripping points along the way like “snowball earth”. I’d think life would be fairly common but our level of semi intelligent ape without destroying themselves ? Then there are the distances to be dealt with. Plus, we’re impatient due to our short life spans.