My kids know and are horrified at the situation and have made me promise I would not keep anything like that from them. My friend has gone to their priest who has also urged him to tell the girls, but still he won’t. I asked her is it bc he feels that he has to be DAD and show no weakness and she says that’s exactly it. So IMO its an ego thing.
I don’t think it is necessarily bad to not show weakness-we were brought up to show none in public, like tears, fear etc, but my dad knew where to draw the line, and that is that it is okay in private with family. I understand heavy duty self discipline, but this sounds like carrying it to an extreme-and it could adversely affect his family-that is a shame.
I have to say that I don’t think I’d share anything like that with the cub, but it has nothing to do with ego or personal valor-she is an adult, and the personal bubble she chooses to live in does not have a provision-other than screaming hysterics-for dealing with things that do not fit nicely behind gilded partitions-it would simply be too much for me to deal with, never mind her...