Okay, I'm now out of ideas.
Suggestion: Tropico 4.
You are El Presidente, and you run a banana republic.
It’s inexpensive and available for download on Steam and I’ve found it to be a relaxing way to pass a few hours.
I'm female, so not looking for violent games....
Never mind. (Although EVE had an all-female pirate corporation for a while, if I recall correctly, its motto was: "Don't forget, you got beaten by a girl. Yarr!")
..never mind my previous post. hehe