Sorry I’m not helpful. Your situation is complicated, to say the least, and I’m trying to think it through and point out possibilities that may help down the road — in case your landlord stops threatening and actually evicts you.
This is just my brainstorming, so my feelings aren’t hurt if there’s a reason you can’t do these things, but here are my thoughts:
Anyone would understand that he needs his money, but calculating the value of all the work you do for your landlord, it seems it should equal enough to pay for your rent — especially as it’s been acceptable to him for the last several years. Labor such as you listed is expensive, so if he were to collect money from you, he’d have to then pay for these services.
Maybe you could break down your labor, what it would cost him if he hired it out, then get something in writing stating your labor is worth this amount. That way, if he attempts to evict you, you’ll at least have it to show the court as to why you dispute eviction.
That is a very good idea. I’ll have to try it and see if he would agree to put anything in writing. The sad part is, it’s mostly my son doing the work now that I am in such bad shape with my back, the wheelchair issues, and now the hands. But regardless, the work is getting done and not by him. He is fed a good meal for supper and is served breakfast in bed (he eats all his meals in the room and stays in there on the computer when he isn’t at work).
Please don’t apologize...I appreciate the suggestions and am willing to at least consider them even if I can’t actually follow through with them.