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Top 10 Turn-Offs for Women
LifeScript ^ | 01/12/2014 | Michelle Smith

Posted on 01/12/2014 11:15:50 AM PST by SeekAndFind

Have you considered turn-offs for women? Or do you tend to instantly like or dislike a man without knowing why? There was a time when women were predominately concerned with making themselves more appealing to the opposite sex. But now that many women prefer to choose instead of being chosen, their preferences demand attention. Here are 10 turn-offs for women of all ages and stages of their relationships.

1. Being Ignored
Being ignored is one of the main things that turn women off. From the first day of a relationship until death, most women expect their partners to be attentive. Most women judge how important they are to their partner, by how much attention they receive when expressing their concerns and opinions or when asking for advice.

When men act as though other things are more important or more interesting, or when they casually dismiss something that is important to a woman, they are setting the tone for a rocky, if not short, relationship. And when men engage in the common ploy of showing interest during the beginning stages of a relationship and allowing it to dwindle as the relationship progresses, they usually find that the woman’s attraction for him takes a similar dive.

2. The Wannabe Big Shot
Women are appalled by men who talk a big game knowing they do not have the means to follow through. Almost every woman has encountered the guy standing at the bar, bragging intentionally-loud so that everyone can hear him. Or even worse, the guy who picks you up in a rented BMW, pretending he is the owner.


Men often convince themselves that all women are after the guys with the biggest and the best of everything. This becomes a motive for those men to paint colorful and fictitious pictures of themselves. But in reality, women find this behavior disgusting, so instead of making themselves attractive, these guys become female turn-offs.

3. Self-Admiration
Some women get dinner and a movie. Other women get dinner and an earful of self-admiration when they go out on a date with a guy. Men who waste women’s time by inviting them on dates so they can spend the evening glorifying themselves are truly a bore.
A woman sitting across the table listening to her date gab about his university GPA, his honors, the sports he played, his stellar performance at work, and his new investment ideas is usually not impressed. She is probably bored to death and hoping never to be sentenced to another date with him.

4. Preoccupation with Sex
Whether it is a first date or a 10-year marriage, women do not want to feel as though sex is all that men want from them.

During the beginning of relationships, most women do not want to hear sexually explicit stories or comments and they do not care to discuss their past performances. This proves true even when women are dressed seductively and, ironically, even if they have had or are willing to have a one-night stand.

In long-term relationships, women don’t want men’s interest to be switched on when they are sexually aroused and switched off after intimacy occurs. Most women want to be caressed, fondled, complimented and otherwise shown affection and intimacy, even when their partners are not seeking sexual gratification.

5. Chauvinism
Despite what women accomplish and contribute to society, there are still men who act as if they are the superior sex. These men have many ways of displaying their attitude. Some, for example, have a belittling title for every woman. The cashier is little lady. The waitress is darling. And the bartender is sweet cheeks.

Other men belittle women’s efforts to perform what they believe to be male tasks. For example, a man may say “this little lady cop pulled me over and had the nerve to write me a ticket.” Whatever the chauvinist behavior, it never fails to be a turn-off for women.

6. Expecting the Woman to Take Care of the Kids
Some men have the misconception that motherhood is something that comes naturally and that women want to devote their lives to child-rearing. On the contrary, many women are as focused on their goals, careers, and social lives as men and they prefer to share family responsibilities.These women do not want to be left home feeding babies and changing diapers while their partners maintain their normal business and social lives. This is one of the female turn-offs that takes a serious toll on a relationship.


7. Paying too Much Attention to Other Women

Men who look at other women, who talk about the physical attributes of other women, or who are too flirtatious are not likely to appeal to women.

It does not matter whether the woman is on TV or lying on a beach virtually naked.

Women like men who are respectful enough to pretend they do not notice. Furthermore, when a man and woman go out and they can barely make their way through a bar or club without the man getting hugs, rubs, waves, and winks, the man is not likely to score points with his date.
8. The Not-So-Courteous Approach
Whistling, using slang, or grabbing a woman’s elbow to get her attention are a few of the many things that turn women off when they are approached by a man. Descent women expect men who are interested in them to approach them thoughtfully and respectfully. Women always prefer a gentleman.

9. Poor Grooming Habits
The appeal of sweaty athletes or grungy musicians proves the magic of television and glossy magazines. In real life, women are not generally attracted to wet bodies or the odors that accompany them. A jogger who runs into the convenience store for a sports drink and expects to get your phone number will probably get disappointed instead.

Beyond basic hygiene, many women are calling for more. Recently a radio talk show’s topic was the double standard of appearance.Most women who called in expressed displeasure and frustration at the fact that men want sleek, gorgeous women, yet they do not take care of themselves. Generally, men with pot bellies, dirty fingernails, and disheveled hair are turn-offs for women.

10. Bad Pick-Up Lines
A sense of humor can be a great thing— when a guy is actually funny. A good pickup line will leave a woman with a lasting impression. But more often, women are exposed to guys who try so hard that they are female turn-offs.

With many women, it is a one-shot deal. Lame pickup lines or bad jokes will erase any opportunity a man may have of getting a date. Other women may let a few bad jokes slide, but when men continue, a woman’s interest tends to diminish.

If your relationship is suffering and you don’t know why, consider these female turn-offs. If your partner is guilty of any of the above-mentioned turn-offs for women and you don’t know how to confront him, perhaps you should leave this article where he will see it.


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KEYWORDS: genderwars; top10; turnoffs; women
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To: xrmusn

That’s it!!


141 posted on 01/12/2014 4:42:27 PM PST by Hulka
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To: dfwgator

LOL - I’d hide some other things too!


142 posted on 01/12/2014 4:46:27 PM PST by Enterprise ("Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities." Voltaire)
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To: Hulka
Most of my buddies honestly wonder what happened to their loving brides.

What was once an open highway became a toll plaza...or worse.

143 posted on 01/12/2014 4:47:46 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: RoosterRedux

True. . .true. . .more than one man discovered the bait-n-switch too late to do anything about it.


144 posted on 01/12/2014 4:50:33 PM PST by Hulka
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To: MHGinTN
A wise man takes comfort in and escape to his wife’s nest.

A wise man will choose a wife who will let him take comfort in and escape to his wife's nest.

There are many wives who lock their hubbies out.

145 posted on 01/12/2014 4:52:37 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: Hulka
And what can you do about it? Not a damn thang.

Yur stuck with something you can't return to Walmart.

I'm not Catholic...but I think the next step for honorable men is the monastery.

If there were a Methodist monastery...I would have been there years ago.

And this from a once very bad boy...

146 posted on 01/12/2014 4:57:13 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: Georgia Girl 2; Hulka; All
“T[r]rue enough, when we all know it is MONEY that is the biggest turn-on for women”

But a man or woman who is looking for money should be eliminated from consideration FIRST.

Let's get it straight.

Either we live our faith or we sink bank into the world...and into the mire.

The first and last determinant in choosing a mate must be faith.

In the end there is nothing more important...is there?

If God is not first...we are lost!

147 posted on 01/12/2014 5:03:54 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: SeekAndFind

Flip side of those: be someone who does not inspire that behavior. Most of those points can arise when they were not the case. Being a selfish b* gets you ignored. Rarely putting out makes him desperate for it. Not taking care of yourself inspires visual satisfaction from other sources. Etc.


148 posted on 01/12/2014 5:06:03 PM PST by ctdonath2 (Making good people helpless doesn't make bad people harmless.)
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To: RoosterRedux

Amen. The man and his woman must first seek the Lord. The rest is trivial.


149 posted on 01/12/2014 5:54:35 PM PST by SisterK (behold a pale horse)
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To: SisterK
I will know I have arrived when I am added to your home page!;-)

Please see mine...it is small, innocent, and true!

150 posted on 01/12/2014 7:14:37 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: RoosterRedux
What was once an open highway became a toll plaza...or worse.

....or a drawbridge and a moat.
151 posted on 01/13/2014 6:26:23 AM PST by 3Fingas (Sons and Daughters for Freedom and Rededicaton to the Principles of the U.S. Constitution...)
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To: RoosterRedux

“T[r]rue enough, when we all know it is MONEY that is the biggest turn-on for women”

No we don’t. I never said that. I said “don’t lean out of your car in rush hour traffic and expectorate onto the pavement”. Thats a turn off.

I don’t care how much money another person has. If it ain’t mine I’m not interested in it.

Frankly I don’t know one woman who does chase men for money. Oh wait. Thats because all my friends are high class professional business women who make their own money.

I know of plenty of men who are happy to marry a woman with a great job and a good income coming in. What does that make them?

How many of you guys on this thread bashing women have a wife with a good job? I’ll bet most. :-)


152 posted on 01/13/2014 7:54:26 AM PST by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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To: RoosterRedux

PS The crack about the Bower bird was a joke. :-)


153 posted on 01/13/2014 7:56:39 AM PST by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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To: SeekAndFind

“Does this rag smell like chloroform?” ;-P


154 posted on 01/13/2014 8:04:00 AM PST by MortMan (Is a delayed shower a "stay of exablution"?)
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To: Georgia Girl 2
I know.;-)

Sometimes, like an idiot, I can't help but get up on my soapbox.

155 posted on 01/13/2014 8:15:03 AM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: RoosterRedux

Yeh me too. :-)


156 posted on 01/13/2014 8:46:47 AM PST by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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To: RoosterRedux

Of course.

Just making a joke.


157 posted on 01/13/2014 8:51:24 AM PST by Hulka
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To: Hulka

See post 155.


158 posted on 01/13/2014 9:19:11 AM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: RoosterRedux

My apology. Just read my ‘pings’ and not the rest of the thread.

Cheers.


159 posted on 01/13/2014 9:48:45 AM PST by Hulka
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To: Hulka

No prob.:-)


160 posted on 01/13/2014 9:53:24 AM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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