That is our family’s view as well. I hate even raising the issue unless I see a clear threat. Most of the others I know with allergic kids are the same way. This is why it is so frustrating when people say that parents are “just making it up” or “looking for attention” ... usually it is the exact opposite.
Statistically speaking, the vast majority of parents who claim their children have peanut allergies are making it up.
But no worries, I’m sure your special snowflake is different.